Using EFT for trauma and abuse recovery

Its just the way it was back then … justifying others behaviour

We get what we deserve!!!!??????

How EFT reveals the root of our beliefs and the energy at which we function …. And then zaps that down to just a memory with no more cellular belief.

A client shares her story of how she got to where she was due to her underlying beliefs of what she deserved through an early lack of strength to stand in her power and stay true to her beliefs.

Through EFT she gets to clear this belief pattern and move forward with forgiveness of herself and others and a belief that she deserves “awesome”.


“When I was in my late teens I started dating him, I was not in love, but my parents approved of him, which was a first.

When I look back there were so many signs that he was a manipulating bully that had no respect for women and he was not emotionally able to love in the true sense of the word.

Why did I not see?????  the signs were all there!!!! So many signs where I had to almost beg forgiveness and pander to his needs and tantrums.

And so the weekend happened. I can remember every minute detail of that weekend, every detail even of where we stayed, it is etched in my memory.

Like so many girls of that era, I was emotionally bullied into having sex, giving up my virginity because that is what I needed to do (according to him).  I was nowhere near ready and yet I succumbed to the enormous pressure I felt.  Afterwards, I cried for ages.  I know now that this was not just about losing my virginity.  Through the EFT I now know that this was the moment etched in time that I gave away my power, gave it to someone who now knew they had me where they wanted me and would forever and a day believe that that could “handle me how they pleased”.

And then, a short time after, I fell pregnant. I got what I deserved!!

So, as it was in that era, my parents were told.

And guess what??   The man that had forced me to have sex against my will was now the hero !!!

Why???  Because he was going to marry me despite that I was “ruined”!!!!

How much did this mess with my head?

They must be right, they are my parents and they are saying that I am “lucky” that he will still have me. I deserve what I get!!!!

I know, logically this is ridiculous, however, this was my belief.  I had gone against my beliefs and had done the wrong thing and now “I made my bed, so I should lie in it”.

And this I did, for decades, continual put downs and emotional abuse on every level.  A long sentence for one crime.

Is it not time to forgive myself and to end my sentence? I say YES

Though the process of EFT, I now forgive myself and know that I did my best at the time, so I can show myself some compassion.  I understand why I was not strong enough then and I release the belief that I deserve bad things to happen to me.

I have served my sentence and more and now I am free to attract all the is good and abundant.

Thank you xo”


If you have an ongoing issue that you just can’t budge please contact me and find how out how we can work together using EFT to remove the issue once and for all.

P.S. Did you see the session on EFT on the SBS program Medicine or Myth? Here’s an interview with renowned brain surgeon, Dr Charlie Teo, where he talks about his experience on the show with EFT.