Narcissists in the workplace

They can catch you off guard and they can be anywhere, even when you think you are healed and no longer in a space of attracting them, the universe sends you a test to show that there is more work to be done.

Always listen and watch peoples behaviours … they will tell you who they are.

How did this happen?

I thought I could spot them a mile off?

How a sense of believing that you needed to take this job can land you in a heap of confusion and lack of self esteem in a heartbeat.

While I am not suggesting we should suspect everyone, sometimes our mindset over-rides our ability to see the forest for the trees.

In recent times, after a relocation I decided that I needed to re-establish my career and set about looking for work.  I was pleased that an “opportunity” dropped in my lap fairly quickly.

From day one, unexpectedly my confidence took a nose dive and I couldn’t work out why.  There was a lot going on with the move and all so I assumed it must be part of that.  I felt like I was justifying and defending myself and going to work anxious and had this odd feeling that ant any time I would be accused of “something”  … In hind sight this in itself should have been a sign.

I was promised things that were not delivered, I was given work that was way below my level of knowledge and skill (to the point that I stuffed it up because it was just not work I do).  On one of these occasions I was effectively called to the principals office for a wrap over my knuckles … I felt like I was back in school.  It seemed like I was continually being told by implication that I didn’t measure up to expectations. When I had great outcomes, the credit did not come my way but hers (yes, this was a her which is one reason I may not have picked up early).  I was given an office that was more like a cupboard and in no way a professionals office space. I kept on changing myself to try to be up to her standard ….. My 50%, I sold myself short and I didn’t listen to my intuition.

I could not put my finger on it, the premises and the business just did not feel right. Everyone in the business seemed to be always ill.

3 things to learn here:

  • Don’t sell yourself short … you will end up shorter
  • If it feels wrong, it is … If it sounds like a duck and quacks like a duck.
  • Listen and watch!

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