No matter what I do, I cannot lose weight?
I have tried everything including emotional punishment to shed it (oops, maybe that is part of the problem)
Is there some reason other then the “logical/scientific” why it won’t damn well move?
Carrying the weight of your emotions? Maybe other peoples as well ? Do you take on too much of other people’s “stuff”
Do you need to release the emotional baggage for your body to release the weight?
How frustrating has it been to help solve other people’s health issues whether than be chronic illness, weight or emotionally related conditions and I mostly work with complex, complicated health conditions …… only not to be able to solve your own, even with outside help.
How frustrating as someone who walks the talk, to be looking like maybe they don’t … I would be the first to admit that I have been critical of practitioners in the past that don’t “appear” like they walk the talk … and here I have found myself.
As many would know, I have been through a few years of intense stress, so during the worst of it I started to gain weight and though the period went for longer than I believed it would, I convinced myself to be kind to myself and that the weight would fall off when the battle was over … yet it has not and I found that it has been frustrating the hell out of me….. and it was embarrassment central in my head.
What now? Is there anything else I can try?
So, as you know, I went and did training in EFT, a proven technique for losing weight. At first though, it was all based on reducing cravings (I don’t have any) or cutting out a food that is not good for you, like chocolate or the like (ok, nothing there either) or tapping on something healthy you should eat more of ( yep, I’ve got nothing) and no, I am not perfect but my diet is clean and 90% according to what I teach … I do advocate the 90:10 rule so really it is in line with that.
So, I tapped on the WHAT THE!!!!????
And here is what I found trapped in those love handles … well it wasn’t love. It was a lot of holding on to old “stuff”, mine and other peoples, a few buckets of self sabotage, a large dose of wanting to blend in and not stand out and a fair dose of self abuse in the form of self talk.
So, going to tap the hell out of those suckers and move on to the healthiest version of me whatever form it takes and learn to love this girl. She, as my mum and dad so aptly put it, “has been to hell and back and come out stronger” ….. She is overdue for love in abundance xo
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So many old beliefs are able to surface through tapping and it is still blowing my mind. So many long held “truths” that have fed into the course of my life and the struggles I have had.
In the mindset that I will learn more about what unconscious beliefs have held me back or steered my life in directions or towards people or things that have been toxic, I have been tapping my little heart out every day since the course. Also called the Peace Procedure, we are encouraged to look at things, people and events that, notwithstanding what came after, we would rather had never happened. This would especially include any traumatic events, these then becomeour guide to our tapping.
And so it came to be that I starting tapping on “the fire”, an event from my youngest years that you would think would have been traumatic … except that I could not remember it. I could remember what came after but not what lead up to it.
Ok, so for some decades, since the age of 3, I have believed that I had played with matches and had tried to set the family house on fire (though from memory it was just a cupboard, but then I was 3). To cut a long story short, I would have to have been one pretty clever and adventurous 3 year old to have gained access to matches, been able to strike the match and successfully light something that would burn ?????
So, did I do it, or did I not? And does it matter?
Does a 3 year old know if they were responsible if they were told they were and could they defend themselves?
What impact did this event have on my life and my subconscious from that point?
Tap Tap Tap Tap Tapping ………….
So glad I cleared that toxic minefield !
Its just the way it was back then … justifying others behaviour
We get what we deserve!!!!??????
How EFT reveals the root of our beliefs and the energy at which we function …. And then zaps that down to just a memory with no more cellular belief.
A client shares her story of how she got to where she was due to her underlying beliefs of what she deserved through an early lack of strength to stand in her power and stay true to her beliefs.
Through EFT she gets to clear this belief pattern and move forward with forgiveness of herself and others and a belief that she deserves “awesome”.
“When I was in my late teens I started dating him, I was not in love, but my parents approved of him, which was a first.
When I look back there were so many signs that he was a manipulating bully that had no respect for women and he was not emotionally able to love in the true sense of the word.
Why did I not see????? the signs were all there!!!! So many signs where I had to almost beg forgiveness and pander to his needs and tantrums.
And so the weekend happened. I can remember every minute detail of that weekend, every detail even of where we stayed, it is etched in my memory.
Like so many girls of that era, I was emotionally bullied into having sex, giving up my virginity because that is what I needed to do (according to him). I was nowhere near ready and yet I succumbed to the enormous pressure I felt. Afterwards, I cried for ages. I know now that this was not just about losing my virginity. Through the EFT I now know that this was the moment etched in time that I gave away my power, gave it to someone who now knew they had me where they wanted me and would forever and a day believe that that could “handle me how they pleased”.
And then, a short time after, I fell pregnant. I got what I deserved!!
So, as it was in that era, my parents were told.
And guess what?? The man that had forced me to have sex against my will was now the hero !!!
Why??? Because he was going to marry me despite that I was “ruined”!!!!
How much did this mess with my head?
They must be right, they are my parents and they are saying that I am “lucky” that he will still have me. I deserve what I get!!!!
I know, logically this is ridiculous, however, this was my belief. I had gone against my beliefs and had done the wrong thing and now “I made my bed, so I should lie in it”.
And this I did, for decades, continual put downs and emotional abuse on every level. A long sentence for one crime.
Is it not time to forgive myself and to end my sentence? I say YES
Though the process of EFT, I now forgive myself and know that I did my best at the time, so I can show myself some compassion. I understand why I was not strong enough then and I release the belief that I deserve bad things to happen to me.
I have served my sentence and more and now I am free to attract all the is good and abundant.
Thank you xo”
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